As a former bystander or should I say recovering bystander, seeking the path of least resistance was my primary modus operandi. I say recovering bystander because the thought occurs to me that I am on a journey much like a recovering addict. As I have said, the struggle is real. The struggle to revert back to the way I’ve always done things. The struggle to change to new ways of thinking and doing. The struggle to create new pathways in my brain that reflect the transformation to No Longer Be a Bystander. The struggle to get out of my comfort zone!
Each and every day, I am making choices that either reflect my new way of life (No Longer a Bystander fully engaged in life) or my old way of life (on the sidelines watching others). It’s the difference between being proactive, facing challenges and pushing through anyway or just letting things happen naturally and giving up at the first sign of difficulty.
You see, the path of least resistance is often the path of least reward. Who, in life, sets out to achieve the lowest reward possible? No one desires that. In fact, putting the words “to achieve” and “lowest reward” together in the same sentence seems odd. Most people want more out of life. They want their achievements to produce the greatest possible rewards. They want their rewards to be a reflection of the hard work they have put in.
However, when you are a bystander, watching other people achieve becomes a way of life. It’s the whole idea of being on the sidelines instead of in the game. As a bystander, you are watching the players do the work. You may be cheering them on but you are not participating in the game.
Making a decision to no longer be a bystander goes against the grain. There is resistance to this change that I face every single day. The decision to get off the sidelines is not a one-time event. It requires thousands of little decisions all day, every day. It means deciding to put on my running shoes every morning to train for my next 5K instead of sitting in my comfy chair in my pajamas drinking coffee and reading. It means heading to my office downstairs to put in a full day’s work instead of finding other things to do with my day.
Deciding to no longer be a bystander came from the discontent I was feeling in my life at the time. I grew tired of the path of least resistance because it is the path of least reward. I wanted more out of life. I wanted more purpose in my life and more challenges because I knew that was the key to a higher reward and fulfillment in life.
I am on a journey of personal growth and development that is giving me purpose. As I learn and grow in my personal life I am challenged to share it with others in the hope that I may be of service and help in your personal growth. I’ve always been a learner. I love to read and listen and watch new information. I love to learn new things. The difference between learning as a bystander and as an active participant is in the implementation. A bystander just gets more head knowledge but a participant fully engaged in life puts the new knowledge into practice.
3 Keys to Making a Lasting Change in Life
1. Believe in Yourself
For me, this didn’t happen instantly. It’s not like you just decide one day to believe in yourself and it just magically happens. And yet, you have to decide one day to believe in yourself. The magic happens more slowly, day by day, decision by decision, action by action until one day you realize you’re different. Transformation takes time but it does happen.
2. Make a Decide
Daily decisions are the key to transformation. Fear can keep you from moving forward. If you let fear control you, you are deciding to not take action.
3. Take Massive Action
As I said earlier, it’s taking action that sets a participant apart from a bystander. I can think about doing something, read all about it, even desperately want to do it, but unless I actually take action I am still a bystander.
In the next few weeks, I will share more about my journey to No Longer Being a Bystander. I want to help you understand more characteristics of a bystander, the consequences of being a bystander and how to conquer being a bystander, so you can live the life of fulfillment and purpose you desire to live.